Emotional Self-Regulation Resources
Audio, Video and Written Resources for Being at Your Best When Your Children Are at Their Worst
Over the years, we’ve shared many short conversations, stories, and reflections on what it means to stay grounded as parents—especially when emotions are running high. This page gathers a few of those resources in one place. Whether you’re in the thick of a hard moment or simply seeking steadier ground, I hope you’ll find something here that brings support and calm.
Emotional Self-Regulation Podcasts
Episodes of the Simplicity Parenting Podcast related to Emotional Self-Regulation.
Don’t Pull on a Knot – Being At Your Best Book Release Celebration
Recovering and Repairing After You Lose It
A Fraction Slower and a Whole Different Energy
The Parent Athlete - Picture Past the Refusal
Meeting Meltdowns and Moving Them On
Levity and Lightness - Gravity and Groundedness
How To Apologize To Children
The 4 Steps to Helping With Sibling Arguments
Emotional Self-Regulation Articles
I think I know why you are yelling
Harmony Addiction
For Those Wanting More ...
If this collection speaks to you, you might also be interested in our upcoming Care Professionals Seminar. We’ll be going deeper into the themes of emotional regulation and compassionate presence—how we can hold steady for children, even in the toughest moments. I’d be honored to have you with us. Click here to add your name to the interest list.
From the author of Simplicity Parenting and The Soul of Discipline
Being at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst: Practical Compassion in Parenting
The new book from Simplicity Parenting author, Kim John Payne.
Available Now!
What is the Book about?
Available at fine booksellers everywhere!
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“The key to helping an out-of-control child is a self-regulated adult. This book proves to be a practical guide to carrying out this centered approach, as well as an easy and encouraging reading experience.”
—Publishers Weekly
About the book
In difficult and challenging situations with our kids, every parent wants to react as much as possible in a way that reflects their family values and expectations. And yet when our children “push our buttons,” we often find ourselves reacting in ways that we know are far from our principles, and even seem to further inflame a situation. Most distressing of all is when we feel ourselves falling into these predictable relationship patterns as they begin to happen. It gives us the sinking feeling of, “Oh no, here we go again.”
We know that when our children are at their worst, they need us to be at our best—or as close to it as we can get at the time. But how can we move from a “stress regress” to speaking in a voice that is warm, calm, and firm? Educator Kim John Payne offers techniques that simply but very directly shift these damaging patterns of communication and parental behavior. It is a grounded and practical tool that he has taught to numerous parents worldwide to:
- Slow down the interaction
- Give them a greater feeling of inner spaciousness
- Be more in control of their reactions and the situation
- Sense what their child’s deeper needs are even though they are misbehaving
- Respond in a way that gives the child a feeling of being heard and yet puts a boundary in place
Look Inside ...
CLICK HERE to explore the book's introduction and Chapter One.
About the Author
Kim John Payne, M.ED, is the author of The Soul of Discipline, the #1 best seller, Simplicity Parenting, Beyond Winning, and How To Be At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst.Â
Kim has been a school counselor, adult educator, consultant, researcher, educator and a private family counselor for twenty seven years.