Emotional Self-Regulation Resources
Emotional Self-Regulation Audios
Body Based Cues- Extract from Being At Your Best Workshop
Losing It When You Are Tired - Extract from Being At Your Best Workshop
Attachment Parenting & Self-Regulation - Extract from Being At Your Best Workshop
Emotional Self-Regulation Articles
I think I know why you are yelling
Emotional Self-Regulation Podcasts
Episodes of the Simplicity Parenting Podcast related to Emotional Self-Regulation.
Don’t Pull on a Knot – Being At Your Best Book Release Celebration
Recovering and Repairing After You Lose It
A Fraction Slower and a Whole Different Energy
The Parent Athlete - Picture Past the Refusal
Meeting Meltdowns and Moving Them On
Levity and Lightness - Gravity and Groundedness
How To Apologize To Children
The 4 Steps to Helping With Sibling Arguments
Harmony Addiction
What Pushes Our Buttons
Being at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst:
Practical Compassion in Parenting
In difficult and challenging situations with our kids, every parent wants to react as much as possible in a way that reflects their family values and expectations. And yet when our children “push our buttons,” we often find ourselves reacting in ways that we know are far from our principles, and even seem to further inflame a situation. Most distressing of all is when we feel ourselves falling into these predictable relationship patterns as they begin to happen. It gives us the sinking feeling of, “Oh no, here we go again.”
We know that when our children are at their worst, they need us to be at our best—or as close to it as we can get at the time. But how can we move from a “stress regress” to speaking in a voice that is warm, calm, and firm? Educator Kim John Payne offers techniques that simply but very directly shift these damaging patterns of communication and parental behavior. It is a grounded and practical tool that he has taught to numerous parents worldwide to:
- Slow down the interaction
- Give them a greater feeling of inner spaciousness
- Be more in control of their reactions and the situation
- Sense what their child’s deeper needs are even though they are misbehaving
- Respond in a way that gives the child a feeling of being heard and yet puts a boundary in place